如何成為職場中最有吸引力的人(2)

　　4.解決他人之間的沖突和爭端

　　In a recent executive coaching survey, CEOs mentioned "conflict-management skills" as their top priority. Being able to help others resolve disputes and conflicting agendas is not just an asset in the C-suite, where leaders have to manage the expectations of a multitude of stakeholders. Even among friends, those who can keep a cool head and balance reason and emotion when arguments threaten to spiral into conflict and hostility, have the respect and admiration of their peers.

　　在最新的主管指導調查中，總裁把“矛盾解決能力”放在了首位。有能力幫助其他人解決爭端和沖突的日程表不僅僅是在最高管理層中有用，領導者要協(xié)調股東們的需求。甚至在朋友之間，那些在爭議將要發(fā)展成矛盾和敵意的時候仍可以保持冷靜，平衡理智和情感的人，能得到同伴的尊敬和敬仰。

　　5. Build relationships and connect with people.

　　5.和他人建立人際關系

　　Whether we are individual contributors, startup entrepreneurs or corporate leaders, we need the help of others to accomplish our goals. Being an interesting person helps in building and managing relationships, but the reverse is also true.

　　不管是個體工作者，創(chuàng)業(yè)企業(yè)家還是公司領導，我們都需要別人的幫助來完成目標。成為一個有吸引力的人能幫助我們建立、管理人際關系，反過來也一樣。

　　If we actively engage others, by, for example, inviting someone to lunch, involving a co-worker in a project, asking for a favor, offering support, or sincerely inquiring how someone is doing, we not only become visible, we become relevant. That's the foundation of mutually gratifying relationships. Make it a goal to communicate authentically with others and become more interesting to them in the process.

　　如果我們積極和他人交往，比如邀請別人一起共進午餐，和同事在同個項目中一起工作，請求幫助，提供支持，或是真誠地問問別人在干什么，我們不僅僅會更有存在感，同樣會和他們有所關聯(lián)。這是建立令人滿意的人際關系的基礎。努力真誠與人交往，在過程中變得更有吸引力。

　　6. Engage in active listening.

　　6.積極傾聽

　　Aside from the fact that engaged listening makes us better informed about people and issues, giving someone our full and undivided attention can have a profound effect on their perception of us. Listening attentively is "giving" rather than "taking." Contrast this with the person who primarily keeps the focus on themselves and the difference becomes crystal clear.

　　積極傾聽除了能讓我們更好地了解人和事物，全神貫注傾聽某人能改觀我們在他們心中的印象。積極傾聽更多的是“給予”而不是“得到”。和這相對立的是那些把關注點首先放在自己身上的人。這其中差別十分明顯。

　　When we're listened to, we matter. Those who do most of the talking believe they matter. We become more interesting when we listen to others.

　　當別人傾聽我們的時候，我們是最重要的。大部分講話的人認為他們是最重要的。如果我們能做到傾聽他人，我們會變得具有吸引力。

　　7. Live life and share experiences.

　　7.享受生命，分享經(jīng)歷

　　Our experiences and what we choose to share are what make others take an interest in us. People often live vicariously through the adventures of their more socially active peers. It doesn't have to be running with the bulls in Barcelona — we easily become a little more interesting when we discuss experiences of enjoying a meal at an exotic new restaurant, learning a challenging skill like waterskiing or attending opening night at the museum.

　　我們選擇分享的經(jīng)歷和其他內容是能讓人感興趣的東西。人們通常對社交中更為活躍的同伴的冒險經(jīng)歷感同身受。用不著在巴塞羅那參加過奔牛節(jié)——我們只要談一談關于在一家異國風味的新餐廳的享受過的美食，學習像滑水撬這樣的技巧，或者是參加博物館的開放夜的經(jīng)歷，就能很容易讓自己變得更吸引力。

　　Standing out in a positive way has wide-ranging benefits. These rules are merely a starting point as we manage ourselves to become the most interesting person in the world.

　　積極生活能帶來很多好處。要想變成世界上最具吸引力的人，這些建議只是一個開始。

【如何成為職場中最有吸引力的人(2)】相關文章：

如何成為職場的EQ高手(2)09-19

職場中如何減壓09-23

如何避免職場中的流言蜚語(2)05-30

如何處理職場中的人際關系08-25

如何在30歲成為職場精英07-13

如何才能成為職場達人09-06

如何學習職場上的人情世故(2)08-25

身在職場中，如何化解嫉妒心理？(2)08-18

如何讓轉行轉崗簡歷更有吸引力(2)09-16

如何面對職場中的危機05-20